I know this post title really sounds so aggressive like I’m in a vexing mode. Well, I think I’m a little angry. My heart bleeds so much when I see people misplacing their values all in the name of LOVE. During the university days, I’ve heard of boyfriends (permit me to use this please) beating a girlfriend. I mean wake up Lady, God loves you so much even before you were born, right before you were given that name.
he loves you before you cooked up lies that looks like an amazing story
he loves you even though you didn’t bring that baby to the world
oh dear, he still loves even after you’ve said terrible things about him.
he loves you before you broke the hymen and he still loves you after.
Most women have absolutely no idea how valuable or powerful they really are. There is a corrosive epidemic of low self esteem in our culture that is setting a tone for relationships that range from lack luster to downright dangerous. We have a tendency to want to explain it. It was our childhood. It was our college boyfriend. It is our weight or social status. That said; explanations don’t save us. Those stories, old and outdated keep us tied to broken self identities that fail us over and over again.
If you get face to face with any real man and ask him what he thinks sexy is, he will say a confident woman is always sexy. Every sex symbol through the years has exuded some form of magical confidence. A woman without confidence is lacking, empty, and wrinkled up inside. She is longing for any attention and will take it where she can get it from anyone, healthy or unhealthy, real or fake. This is a recipe for disaster. Unfortunately for most women, they never find their power, and the absence of that power leaves a legacy of failed relationships and pain that spans years or decades. Just by being born female, you were gifted with a magic that makes the world go round. Failing to own that simple truth creates women who lack confidence, and settle for relationships that are far beneath them.
When it comes to romantic relationships there is one simple truth. We get exactly what we are willing to settle for. Whatever you have going on in your relationship, or not going on for that matter, is something you are settling for. Women set the bar in their romantic relationships. They have all the power, until they start to give it up. If you think you can’t do any better, you are absolutely right. If you think you deserve to be treated like a Goddess, you are also absolutely right – and you will be.
Oh, I’m almost close to tears as I write. This is because it pains me a lot when we refuse to open our eyes to see how much God loves us and therefore pave way for a fellow human to maltreat us.
John 3:16 tells us how much he loved you and gave his only son for you
Where is the value? Where is the self-worth? Why do many of us tend to live much of our lives feeling rejected, unloved, unnoticed and unrecognized by others and even God. I think it’s high time we stop seeking for attention and focus more on God. When it comes to romantic relationship, we should note the following:
1. The quality of all relationships are inevitably tied to our level of self worth.
2. We get what we are willing to settle for in all areas of our lives, especially relationship.
3. Confidence is the single most sexy quality and a very powerful place of attraction.
4. Getting the relationship of your dreams is an inside job. It’s never about another person.
5. Real men are amazing. Real men want to make their women really happy.
6. A happy woman is very pleasant to be around.
Don’t feel intimidated by peer pressure? Flee from every relationship that contributes to a diminishing you. God at his very own time will bring the one who deserves you, who will treat you right, and together – you’ll raise a divine generation , you’ll be focused on making heaven. God’s desire is to get us to the place of never measuring ourselves by external measuring sticks. Our identities are not in what we do for God but according to the lavish love He has provided and we have chosen to reciprocate back to Him. We are His and He is ours. This identity was enough for Jesus and it will similarly meet the needs of our hearts as well.
The relationship of your dreams is an inside job. It’s inside you, and no one else. At first glance that reality might seem overwhelming. At second glance, it’s the keys to the gate that sets you free for the rest of your life. When you are willing to recognize that no one other person is more important than your own happiness, you are home free. At that point you can have any relationship you chose to create. Until then, it’s any one’s guess.
I pray that we may all re-evaluate our relationships. I hope we continue to bask in God’s love. Let us not misplace values. It is better to consider now than to regret later. Remember you can always send in your stories, prayer request. #GPP